If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete.--Jack Kornfield
Lovingkindness is the heart of the teachings of Buddha. In mindfulness meditation, lovingkindness means allowing one’s thoughts, worries, joys, distractions to float through the mind without judgement. If painful thoughts arise that consume us, we focus on lovingkindness toward ourselves. We make mistakes, take wrong turns, have regrets—lovingkindness is the only practice that will allow us to learn, grow and move to the place where we can express our lovingkindness and compassion toward others. No matter how hard we try, we cannot express toward others what we have not experienced for ourselves. If we believe that we can, we deceive ourselves into thinking that we do not matter in our own experience. Self-compassion comes hard for most of us. Seeing ourselves in the Light of Lovingkindness is the first step toward believing that we are, indeed, a beloved child of the Universe. May it be so. Namaste
Gentle Thoughts: Do you have trouble showing lovingkindness to yourself? Can you give yourself permission to do just that?